What to say in response to “I love you”: ideas and tips

What do you say to the three big words “I love you”? A confession of love is a big step in a relationship and should be taken seriously in any case. Depending on one’s own emotional state, the answer can vary.

What is the response to the words “I love you”?

A confession of love from your partner requires a great deal of courage and honesty, which should be appreciated in any case. However, this does not mean that you have to reciprocate the words if you do not feel ready. Here’s how you can respond respectfully to a declaration of love:

• In the best case scenario, the declaration of love triggers feelings of happiness in you and you feel the same way about your partner. If you are sure of your feelings, you can of course return the words or simply say “I love you too”.
• Also, it is okay to be a little blindsided by your partner’s feelings at that moment. You may have strong feelings for your partner but still not be ready to say “I love you”. You are in no way obligated to say the words back just because your partner has made themselves vulnerable.
• If you haven’t quite reached that point yet, but are sure it might come soon, be honest and tell your partner so. For example, one possible response would be, “Thank you for telling me. I’m not quite ready to say the words yet, but I have strong feelings for you too. “
• Another polite way to respond is to refer to the qualities you particularly appreciate in your partner. For example, “I also feel very comfortable with you and enjoy spending time with you. “
• If you are at a loss for words at that moment but reciprocate the feelings, you can also simply respond with a heartfelt hug or kiss. Such a gesture can also express your feelings.
• However, if you notice that you do not reciprocate the other person’s feelings, or not to the same extent, now is the time to say so honestly. “Thank you for your honesty, but I can’t reciprocate those feelings (yet).” or “Thank you for your courage, but I think we have different ideas about our relationship.” would be possible responses.