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Instagram offers good opportunities to get in touch with others, to start a conversation – and also to flirt. The first step in particular should be carefully considered.
Flirting on Instagram – this is how to get your crush’s attention
Classic dating platforms like Tinder are very popular, but other social networks like Instagram can also be great for meeting new people. If you have a crush on someone whose profile you’ve discovered on the platform, you can take the initiative and get your crush noticed.
- You may already be familiar with the term “sliding into the DMs” – this refers to writing a “direct message”, i.e. a private message, to someone on Instagram. The term is usually used when there are romantic ulterior motives involved.
- It is better to refrain from this method at first. Before you simply write a message to a stranger, it is advisable to arouse their interest in you beforehand. This will also increase the chance that your flirting attempt will be successful.
- Therefore, you should first draw attention to yourself by following the profile and liking two or three photos of the other person that you particularly like. Make sure that the pictures are up-to-date. Also, don’t just wildly like all of your crush’s photos – that could seem excessive and inappropriate and leave an overly desperate impression.
- If your crush posts stories more frequently, you can also respond to them. To do this, you have the options of responding with various emojis, liking the story or writing a message directly related to the story. This can lead to a casual conversation.
- Inevitably, the other person will respond in turn with likes. If they also follow you, this is particularly helpful, because DMs otherwise do not end up directly in the chat overview, but only under “Requests”. Especially people who receive a lot of DMs often don’t read their requests or only rarely. After four weeks, the message disappears again on its own. Your message can therefore quickly disappear under “Requests” and remain unanswered.
- After you have followed each other, liked a few posts and perhaps even commented, the time is right for a friendly, creative direct message. However, it should not seem too forced. Ideally, it should relate to a photo or a story, for example, so that you have a good conversation starter. Questions on topics that are obviously of interest to your crush are also a good way to start the conversation.
More tips for your Instagram flirt
Don’t rush into your Instagram crush, but build up your virtual acquaintance gradually. However, also bear in mind: the greater the reach of a profile, the lower the probability that your contact will be noticed and reciprocated.
- How exactly Instagram’s algorithm works, Instagram prefers to keep to itself. However, regular interaction with your crush can’t hurt if you want to make sure they read and respond to your private message.
- You cannot influence how high up in the chats you appear. If the person receives a lot of DMs, you have to catch the right moment. The order in which chats and chat requests are displayed depends on the order in which they are received. Whether your crush reads and responds to your message, of all things, depends not only on a portion of luck, but also on whether you have already caught his or her eye in a positive way
- If you do not receive a reply from your crush, you should respect and accept this decision. Refrain from writing on and on and commenting – this will only end up getting you blocked by the other person.